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Clever Parent's Guide to Discipline

Are you frustrated when it’s time to discipline your less-than-well-behaved children...again? If you feel like pulling out your hair, just implement the mindset of a clever parent.

1.  Stay as cool as a cucumber. Children expect yelling when they’ve broken the rules, so make it your policy to stay calm. Use a measured tone of voice to let them know which rule they’ve broken and what their consequence will be. Don’t argue with them. You’re the parent in charge, and the parent in charge doesn’t argue. Use respectful language, speak clearly and plainly, and close your ears to any ranting and raving that might occur.

2.  Make the punishment fit the crime. You might want to ground your children for the rest of their lives and send them off to military school, but that’s extreme for offenses like talking back or not picking up toys. If you jump to the ultimate consequence right away, then you don’t have anywhere to go in the future. So, pick a lesser consequence and build from there. For example, start your child on two days without a cell phone and then you can add extra days to the duration, if needed.

3.  Consequences should inconvenience the child, not the parent. A consequence should only make one person unhappy, the child who receives it. Pick penalties that get the child’s attention and help them realize that you mean business. Administer them calmly (remember, cool as a cucumber) and without interrupting your life. Does it matter if your child watches TV? Nope. It’s not your problem, is it?

4.  Think outside the box. You might feel the need to freshen up your rotation of consequences, so occasionally add a few new ones to the mix. Often this brings protests from the children, but while they’re not watching television, they can scrub toilets, rake leaves, and fold laundry. I once felt the need to get my daughter’s attention, so I removed everything from her bedroom except for furniture. Her basic needs were still being met, so it wasn’t a problem that the room was mostly bare. That was a consequence she never forgot, and the mere mention of it usually snaps her right back into line.

5. Remind your children who’s in charge. Children who are bit too big for their britches need a gentle reminder of who’s the boss. That person is the parent who provides for all their needs and guides them through childhood on the road to successful adulthood. Yes, there are bumps along the way, but clever parents use these to teach lessons and reign in the children who’ve gotten out of hand.

The clever parent never loses her cool, even
when the going gets tough!

6. Consistency is key. Parents must follow through with the consequences they administer. To cut short a consequence tells children that you don’t mean what you say. Choose wisely so the consequence will be effective.

The clever parent is calm, cool, and collected. The clever parent doesn’t argue. The clever parent knows that consequences are important and administers them with love. The clever parent never forgets the goal – to raise productive members of society. Hang in there, parents. It’s all worth it in the end.

Teach Money Sense with Coupons

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I recently turned my 12-year-old daughter into the chief coupon clipper at our house. I wanted to increase her money sense and shopping savvy. Instead of telling her which coupons to cut, I devised an entire program. Here’s how it works.

Each week we get the coupons out of our Sunday paper. I give them to my daughter with the barest of instructions, “Cut these.” It’s her job to decide which coupons get cut according to the products she knows we use at our house. She’s allowed to ask me questions, and she also can search through the cupboards to see what products we normally purchase. After she cuts the coupons, she puts her initial somewhere on the coupon. She then must go through our coupon organizer and remove any expired coupons while also adding the new coupons. Now it’s time to shop!

When I go the grocery store, I make a list of any coupons I use with her initial on them. At the end of the trip, I total how much she “earned” with her initialed coupons, and she receives that amount of money as payment for her work. Granted, it reduces the amount of savings on my grocery bill, but I believe the lessons she’s learning are more valuable. Since we’ve started this program at our house, I’ve noticed that my daughter has grown in several areas.

Her money sense has improved. The value of a dollar has to be taught. She’s starting to understand what food and household items cost by looking at coupons and thinking about the products we need to buy for our household.

She understands why it’s good to save money. My daughter now realizes that a coupon helps the family spend less at the grocery. Several dollars shaved off the grocery bill means there’s more money to be spent elsewhere. Cutting coupons is worth the time and effort. Hopefully, this early exposure to the concept of saving money will stick with her as she grows to adulthood.

She’s learning about brand name products versus generic ones. As she makes choices on which coupons to cut, we have conversations about brands. In our house we have certain items, like laundry detergent, where we are brand specific. For other products we have no brand loyalty. She’s learning lessons about choosing the right products for our family.

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Her organizational skills get a workout. She cuts, sorts, and categorizes as she works with the coupons. This process helps her learn more about organization.

Her work ethic is strengthened. I’m not going to lie, cutting coupons and organizing them is not always high on the list of my daughter’s favorite tasks. However, she enjoys receiving her earned money after I come back from the grocery. This gives me a chance to remind her that the money is a direct result of the work she did earlier in the week. She’s beginning to make a connection between working and earning money. There’s a bonus lesson, too...the work has to be done, even if it’s not much fun.

Try the coupon method in your household and see how it begins to introduce your child to the world of money management and savvy shopping.

Bye, Bye Summer...Hello, School!

Summer is over, and parents everywhere must work to get their kids back into the school time routine. Here are a few things you can do to move from the summer mindset to a school mindset.

1. Set a regular bedtime. Late bedtimes and sleeping in may work in the summer, but this type of routine doesn’t equal success for the school year. Pick a bedtime and stick with it no matter how much the kids might want to stay up late. Not only does this ensure your kids get an adequate amount of sleep, it gives mom and dad some quiet time in the evenings.

2.  Make homework a priority. With school starting, many extra-curriculars start up again, too. However, keep homework at the top of the priority list. Make sure kids know it should be completed every night, no exceptions. It’s the child’s responsibility to keep track of homework and to get it completed with minimal assistance from parents. If grades start to slip, then cut back on the extra-curricular activities.

3.  Provide quiet study space. In addition to making homework the priority, ensure that kids have a quiet place to study and do homework. Keep the TV off and music low during homework time.

4.  Eat dinner as a family. This may not seem to have anything to do with school routines, but it’s just one more routine that helps to set a schedule in the evenings. Plus, this gives the family time to talk about the day and to share information. Kids who participate in regular evening mealtimes learn how to hold conversation with adults and how to use table manners. All of these skills are beneficial for the future.

5.  Prepare clothes at bedtime. Nothing makes for a crazy morning like running around looking for clothes and shoes. Lay all these out the night before to save time in the morning. This is a good tip for the adults, too.

6.  Pack backpacks at night. In addition to clothes, have the backpacks and lunches ready to go before heading to bed. In the morning, kids just pick up the packs and walk out the door. This helps lessen stress in the mornings.

7.  Teach kids to use an alarm clock. As kids reach late elementary school, they can begin to use an alarm clock. Not only does this help teach responsibility, it’s one less thing that mom and dad have to do in the mornings. Basic alarm clocks aren’t expensive and are easy to use.

8.  Use a calendar. Train your children to write important dates and events on the family calendar. A calendar that’s located in a central area, such as the kitchen, provides a convenient place for everyone to write and check upcoming events. This also helps train kids on using time management devices.

9.  Limit screen time. Only allow screen time, such as TV, video games, or computers, after all homework and chores are completed. Even then, keep it short and monitor the content for age appropriateness.

10.  Encourage exercise. One hour of exercise is recommended every day for kids. Be sure to get kids outside and moving each evening, especially if they’ve been sitting most of the day.

Back to school time is always busy and hectic, but establishing good routines helps keep the entire family in a groove.

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Take a Step Back in Time at Alcatraz

Al Capone. “Machine Gun” Kelly. Mickey Cohen. Robert Stroud, the “Birdman of Alcatraz.” These names conjure up images from a different era and of a lonely, isolated prison in the heart of San Francisco Bay; Alcatraz. Though it served as a federal penitentiary for just 29 years, it still captures the public’s attention and imagination. As a result, it’s one of the top tourist destinations in San Francisco.

“You are entitled to food, clothing, shelter, and medical attention. Anything else you get is a privilege. Alcatraz Prison Rules and Regulations, Number 5.” That rule was just one of the realities of life inside the walls at “the Rock.” This rule and many others are now part of the rich history of the island.

“Break the rules and you go to prison. Break the prison rules, and you go to Alcatraz.” That sentiment sums up the purpose of the solemn island penitentiary...a place to house troublesome prisoners or to treat those who needed extreme rehabilitation. The island was virtually escape-proof, although there were 36 attempts over the years. In 1962, Frank Morris, John Anglin, and Clarence Anglin pulled off the most famous escape in Alcatraz history. They chipped holes around the vents in their cells, climbed into the utility corridor behind the walls and escaped to the roof. They left paper Mache dummy heads in their beds to fool the guards. This escape, months in the making, made the trio famous, although they were never seen again and were presumed to have drowned in San Francisco Bay.

Touring one of the cell blocks

Although Alcatraz had a reputation for being hard and tough, history shows that prisoners at Alcatraz enjoyed some perks not seen in other prisons of the time. They were allowed to eat as much food, the best of any federal prison, as they wanted within the 20-minute meal periods. In the prisons’ later years, they had permission to paint, play musical instruments, watch movies on the weekends, and use radios. The guards and their families lived on the island, and they were so confident in the security of Alcatraz, they never locked their doors.

A cell in Block D -- solitary confinement

Today, the practical side of a visit to Alcatraz starts with a boat ride from San Francisco. Stopping first at the dock, a volunteer from the National Park service welcomes visitors and gives a brief introduction. From there it’s a steep walk up the hill to the cell house, but transportation is available for the infirm. Once in the cell house, an excellent audio tour, which includes narration from former guards and prisoners, guides visitors through the cellblocks and various rooms. After the audio tour, visitors are free to walk the grounds to see the recreation yard, views of the mainland, and the well-kept gardens. Alcatraz is also home to a wide variety of seabirds, and their nesting areas can be seen from outside the cell house.

Those who want to take a trip to Alcatraz should plan ahead and buy tickets early. Tickets for the ferry and subsequent island tour sell out well in advance. Tickets can be purchased online at http://www.alcatrazcruises.com , the official provider of transportation to and from Alcatraz. Other tour companies offer tickets, but at inflated prices.

 

"You are expected to bathe in a reasonable amount of time."
Good advice for us all!

“It looks like Alcatraz has got me licked,” said Al Capone in 1934. Indeed, time spent at “the Rock,” by over 1,500 inmates gave the island its notorious reputation. Windswept rocks, crashing waves, and San Francisco’s frequent fog put the finishing touches on one of America’s most visited National Parks. It’s worth the time and trouble to make a journey to the Rock...Alcatraz. 

Visitors can tour the recreation yard where prisoners used to play
baseball and other sports.

Trees are the “Stars” in Sequoia National Park

Imagine a place where the trees are superstars. The “skyscrapers” are living organisms for which people walk miles to admire. Imagine a place where forest fires are essential in cultivating the species. Picture a tree with needs so specific that it can only grow in one location. See its branches soaring to the sky, but with roots that are shallow – the trees’ only weakness. Can such a site exist on this planet? It does, and its name is Sequoia National Park.

A recent vacation to this unique place revealed a world unlike any other. These large trees, not the tallest on earth, but the largest and densest, grow only on the western slope of the Sierra Nevada Mountains at elevations between 5,000 and 7,000 feet. They can soar to be 300 feet tall with trunks up to 40 feet in diameter. While the trees grow quickly during their lifetimes, the root systems are shallow. Consequently, toppling is the main cause of death for sequoias. Heavy winter snows and subsequent spring melts provide the trees’ main water source. 

A visit to Sequoia National Park commands a few “must see” experiences. For a birds-eye perspective of the park, visitors can climb the steep quarter-mile path to the top of Moro Rock. This granite dome provides a breathtaking view of the surrounding area and the Great Western Divide, a chain of mountains that runs through the park.

The largest living tree on earth by volume is the 2,700-year-old General Sherman tree. At 275 feet tall, it is estimated to weigh over 1,300 tons. A short downhill walk from the parking lot puts visitors in the shadow of this enormous tree. Be ready for the shortness-of-breath hike back up the trail, though. The strategically placed benches along the trail are ideal for flatlanders not used to the high altitudes of the park.

For an adventure beyond the General Sherman tree, a two-mile walk on the paved Congress trail gives visitors a view of the Washington tree, the world’s second largest tree. To get a break from the crowds, walk the five-mile Trail of the Sequoias which reveals a splendid collection of sequoias and other unique flora and fauna.

Drive through the Tunnel Log and then walk through for a photo op.

The Tunnel Log, a tree which toppled to the ground in 1937, is the only tree in the park through which visitors can drive. A tunnel cut in the fallen tree in 1938 turned this spot into a popular tourist attraction. The tree was estimated to be over 2,000 years old when it fell. Stop nearby for photo ops and to walk through the tunnel, as well.

The Giant Forest Museum provides interpretive displays and lessons on the ecology, fire cycle, and history of the trees. The Big Trees Trail, an interpretive wheelchair-accessible trail, leads directly out of the museum parking lot. Kids can learn about wildlife, camping, and forest ecology with hands-on activities in at the excellent Beetle Rock Education Center. Let them explore and get out the wiggles while learning about the ecology of the park.

Adventurous folks will find a plethora of hiking trails, caving tours, and campgrounds.  Whether it’s day hikes or longer treks, the park has miles of trails to suit every hiker, including ones reaching elevations over 12,000 feet. Camping is permitted in the park on a first-come, first-served basis.

Hike to the top of Moro Rock for a spectacular view of the
park and the Great Western Divide.

Driving in Sequoia is not for the faint of heart. Hair-pin turns and the rise and fall of various elevations calls for steady hands behind the wheel. In the summer, visitors can ride the free Sequoia Shuttle and let the bus drivers do the work. Riding the shuttle also helps cut the air pollution that plagues the park. Either way, a vehicle is necessary for touring.

Whether you’re intending to spend a day or a week at Sequoia National Park, there’s plenty for visitors of all ages. Come to Sequoia to see the famous trees, the superstars of this California hotspot.

 

Visit the Park website at http://www.nps.gov/seki/index.htm for more information.

Airport Etiquette Tips from Frequent Fliers

My husband has been a business traveler for over 17 years, and his least favorite time to travel is the summer. The airport is packed with vacationers who don’t travel often and don’t understand the etiquette of air travel. So, in the spirit of business travelers everywhere, and with input from a group of business travelers I know, here are the top things business travelers wish vacationing folks knew about air travel.

Be prepared for security. The business travelers had a lot to say about people who do not understand the procedures at security. All passengers should check the TSA website regularly to better comprehend what cannot be carried through the security checkpoint. Vacationers also need to realize that certain items, such as belts and shoes, will have to be removed before passing through the metal detectors or body scanners. When in doubt, watch the business travelers in the security line, and follow their lead. That business traveler in front of you may be going through security for the fifth time that week, so don’t argue about removing your watch, just go with the flow. Also, the TSA agents don’t care if you miss your flight, so be sure to allow plenty of time.

Plan ahead for your children and keep them entertained
while flying.

Mind your children. Another oft-mentioned topic from the business travelers regarded children. Most business travelers like children. However, nothing upsets the flying experience like an unhappy child. Make sure you have plenty of supplies for your children. This includes snacks, entertainment, extra clothes, and all the baby gear that is required for the trip.

One business traveler told the tale of a baby with a diaper blow-out in the early portion of the flight. The mother didn’t have the required wipes and diapers to manage the situation which made the flight unpleasant for all the passengers. Plan ahead for your kids! Keep them happy, clean, and quiet for everyone’s sake.

Be aware of others. Air travel isn’t glamorous. It’s more like riding the city bus these days. Unless you’re flying first class, expect to be crowded and uncomfortable. Making it even worse is the lack of courtesy sometimes shown by other passengers. This includes pushing through the plane aisle to get off first, stowing many small bags in the overhead bins instead of under the seat, placing carry-on bags in the front instead of closer to the passenger’s actual seat, and crowding the jet way while waiting to pick up planeside-checked bags.

Other annoyances include travelers who throw their seats back as soon as they sit down and those who block the plane aisle to remove items from their carry-on bags while people are still boarding the plane. The use of headphones, or the lack thereof, garnered another honorable mention from the business traveler panel. Either headphones aren’t used at all, which means surrounding passengers are subjected to video game noise for the entire flight, or folks crank up the volume to disturbing levels.

One amusing anecdote from the business travelers involved PDA, personal displays of affection. Even though it might be your honeymoon, your fellow travelers don’t want to see this played out in an airplane seat or in the terminal waiting area. Keep your hands to yourself, please.

Be realistic. Delays happen. Weather happens. Luggage gets lost. You’re not the only one who’s being inconvenienced by these annoyances.  If you’re mad about a delayed or cancelled flight, think of the business traveler whose paycheck and livelihood may depend on making an appointment five states away. Realize that some people need to fly because it’s how they make their business work. While your vacation may be important to you, a delay in your plans only affects you and your family. A delay for the business traveler potentially means lost money.

Delayed Plane? It's bound to happen. Know the airline
policies and be realistic about compensation.

The business traveler panel discussed those passengers who become irate because the airline isn’t compensating them. The airlines aren’t required to pass out free flights every time a plane is delayed. The business travelers recommend studying airline policies regarding delays, cancellations, and lost luggage so that you won’t be surprised when you’re faced with an interruption in your plans. Understand that delays will happen. It’s inevitable.

In short, remember your fellow travelers when you’re flying. Common courtesies go a long way to making the trip more pleasant for everyone involved. Be prepared, be informed, and be flexible.

Savvy Travelers’ 10 Hotel Tricks

Looking to maximize your hotel experience as you travel? Here are a few tricks to enhance your stay.

1. Constantly search for the best hotel rate. Even if you think you’ve found a rate you can live with, continue to search and cross check until you leave for your trip. Don’t settle for the rate you locked in at the time of your booking. Assume the rates fluctuate daily. It never hurts to search the web again or to make a direct phone call to ascertain the current rate status.

2.  When using discount search sites, cross check against other websites. Travelocity and Expedia don’t always have the lowest rates. Visit the hotel’s own website or call the hotel directly.

3.  Factor in discounts such as AAA, military, and AARP. If a hotel’s website doesn’t indicate these discount statuses, make a phone call to double check.

4.  Use caution when booking a reservation that can’t be cancelled or is non-refundable. This may provide security for your plans, but it also locks you into a reservation. If a cheaper hotel or one in a better location becomes available later, you won’t be able to take advantage of the benefits.

5.  Booking on an Internet discount site may get you a discount experience. Hotels earn a lower profit on rooms from discount sites, so they give better rooms and service to the guests who chose the hotel for more than just price.

6.  Be an intelligent complainer. When issuing a complaint or asking for a particular service, be clear, concise, and polite. Acquire the name of the hotel employee who helps you and use it when speaking to management about your experience. These strategies will be more effective than screaming or rudeness.

7.  Confirm reservations in advance. Hotels purposely overbook by ten percent which helps them keep a full house considering there will be no-shows and cancellations. If you stay just one night or you booked on a discount Internet site, you’re more likely to get bumped than those who’re paying a higher rate and stay for multiple days. Worried? Call ahead to confirm your reservation.

8.  Join a rewards club. Frequent travelers can join a rewards program and earn status with hotel chains. Not only will you be a preferred customer, you’ll earn free or discount nights that you can use for more travel.



Not all hotel rooms are the same. Tipping your desk agent may score you a
bigger room or a better bathroom.

9.  Tips can make a difference. Want a bigger room, one with a great view, or one with a better bathroom? Tip the desk agent. Desk agents are authorized to make upgrades, and some extra cash in their pocket can mean a better room for you. Tipping can also make a difference with maids, bellmen, and the concierge. Don’t be afraid to share a bit of your wealth in hopes for a better experience.

10. Location matters. Do your research and choose a hotel that’s close to your activities. A cheap hotel that’s miles away from the action might save you money, but you’re losing time and convenience. Factor in the cost of traveling for the day, and you might as well have booked a slightly more expensive hotel that’s closer to the fun. Time is money, so chose your hotel location carefully.

Be a savvy hotel customer on your next vacation and see how much better your experience can be.

Safe Travel Tips Everyone Should Know

Summertime is vacation time, and a focus on safety can help maximize the experience. Follow these suggestions for a safe trip.

Safeguard your valuables. Leave fancy jewelry or family heirlooms at home. Traveling with these items puts you at greater risk of loss or theft.

Make copies. Leave copies of your credit cards and passports with a family member. Pack another set with you, away from the originals. Having copies of these items expedites the replacement process if the originals are lost or stolen.

Manage your money. Don’t flash a lot of money, and leave extra credit cards at home. Spread out the money and credit cards amongst all the adults on the trip to prevent disaster if one person is pickpocketed. Contact credit card companies before departing on an international trip so that your card won’t be flagged as stolen when you use it overseas.

There's safety in numbers! Also, keep kids and teens with adults.

There’s safety in numbers. Avoid being alone and stick together as a group. When traveling with a large group, institute the buddy system. Always keep kids and teens with adults.

No news is good news. While some locals are friendly and like to chat up tourists, use caution in these conversations. Be careful about sharing specific travel plans and details. Don’t disclose lodging information or particulars about your route.

Use common sense. When traveling, use the same common sense that you’d use at home. If you wouldn’t walk down a dark alley at home, then don’t’ do it on vacation. If you wouldn’t leave a bar with a person you just met at home, then don’t do it in a foreign country. It’s still possible to do fun exciting things on vacation without making poor decisions that endanger your safety.

Keep luggage practical. Pack light and carry as little as possible. Don’t weigh yourself down with numerous pieces of luggage. It impairs your ability to travel swift and light, and it also means you’ve got to keep track of more personal belongings. Plan ahead and purchase luggage that will best meet the needs of your trip. A bag that works well on a resort vacation isn’t suited to a hiking trip. Women should also make the same considerations for purses.



It was fun being photographed with these alpacas until the owners decided
we should pay more money. Be sure to investigate the parameters BEFORE
partaking in the services.

Watch out for street scams. In touristy areas, street scams abound. Don’t be fooled into parting with money because you posed for a picture with a cute character or took pictures with adorable local children. Participation in shoe shining, getting directions, or enjoying street musicians can turn sour when the performers expect to be paid. Be sure to find out the parameters of the situation before you partake of the goods and services being offered.

Can you hear me now? Investigate your communication capabilities before leaving home, especially for international travel. Don’t assume your smartphone will work in another country. Research this before you depart. Also investigate your ability to check e-mail or have access to the internet before you leave home.

Provide contact information. Leave your travel itinerary and all contact numbers with family before you leave town. If you’re traveling internationally, register with the state department prior to departure.

Lock down your house. Take precautions for your home while you’re away. Light timers, locked windows and doors, and a house sitter can keep your home safe and sound. Enlist the help of trustworthy neighbors to watch your house and leave contact numbers with them.

Avoid social media. It can be tempting to post fun pictures to social media while you’re on the road, but this just advertises to the world that you’re out of town. Wait until you get home to post fun pictures of your trip.

Be vigilant and be practical when you travel. Staying safe on your vacation will help everyone to have a great time.